Are You Giving Yourself Permission To Feel?

Feelings are valid – not to be feared, judged or denied. They deserve the same acknowledgement, respect, love, and acceptance as anything else in your life. So, are you giving yourself permission to feel?

As a deeply sensitive soul, I already felt a lot – having ‘more’ to deal with would throw me over the edge – or so I thought. Yet, it was through major life events – the death of both my parents and leaving my home country of England to live in Hong Kong – that were to be the catalysts that lead to change.

I tried to deny and hide my feelings, numbing them with alcohol, controlling them with a food disorder and distracting myself by seeking love and connection from others for external validation. Keeping my feelings bottled up inside, eventually led me to poor physical, mental and emotional health.

I became depressed and felt totally isolated – I had hit rock bottom. The self-preservation and defence mechanisms I had built up and held so tightly in place came crashing down. For me to carry on, I needed to face how I felt, and not project or blame my feelings on others. To finally deal with all the pain I had buried for so long, to heal, and so, I did. 

Through using various practices, I started to confront my feelings and pain. Sitting in a meditative space with sounds of nature, deep breathing and using guided visualisation helped to calm my mind and settle my frayed and frazzled nervous system. Alcohol was replaced by journaling – writing my feelings down when I was stressed was a cathartic way to release what was really going on inside my busy head and a heavy heart. Instead of holding in and controlling myself, I started to share how I felt with a person I trusted.

This was unusual for me – I was often the one that others turned to with their problems. Helping others had been a perfect way for me to avoid my own inner pain. Through sharing, I started to take responsibility for how I felt and to fully ‘feel’ my feelings. It was so healing and therapeutic to talk to someone about ME. It made me realise deep inside that I was also worthy of being listened to and could be liked and loved, and be deserving of time and attention. 

I learned various energy healing methods and saw energy healers to help shift the energy blockages I had. Discovering more about my soul, the wounds I had been carrying, and confronting my suppressed feelings was a way for me to heal and move forward.

Feelings and emotions are a great access point to know one’s self on a deeper level. It helps us to discover our deepest longings, wishes and inner fulfilments, thus leading to a deep transformation and transcendence to our core selves.

How to accept your feelings

  1. Take some deep breaths and close your eyes. ‘Drop’ your attention into yourself, inside your body. How do you feel? Acknowledge it and say, “I accept how I feel”.
  2. When your feelings are triggered by someone or something, take responsibility for your reactions. Close your eyes and tune into your body, and say, “I accept how I feel.”
  3. If you can label the feeling, say, “I accept this (sadness, anger, loss, irritation, resentment, grief, or whatever is the feeling).”
  4. Repeat the words and feel yourself drop deeper into the feelings within.
  5. If other feelings come up, also label them, “I accept this XXX (feeling)”.
  6. Keep accepting the feelings as they arise, until you feel a natural pause.
  7. Think of something that brings the feeling of love (or joy). Open to feel that feeling and expand it to fill the whole of your body, mind and heart.
  8. Get in touch with your core self, which holds all in acceptance. 

Other ways to get in touch with your feelings

  • Talk with a healer, therapist, counsellor, or non-judgmental friend that can ‘hold space.’
  • Dance or move your body to express your feelings.
  • Art or creative therapy to process emotions.
  • Be in Nature. Water is calming.
  • Connect to your inner self through self-inquiry and meditation.
  • Observe self-talk and change it.
  • Explore! Where is the feeling held in the body? Does it have a shape? A colour? Accept it as it is.
  • Imagine the feeling is surrounded by an accepting, soothing, pink light.
  • Visualise a bright light in the center of your chest and expand it to fill you.
  • Let go of the past. Forgive.
  • Use energy healing & crystals to help harmonise and heal.
  • Develop a healthy mindset.
  • Focus on uplifting feelings like love, joy, peace, bliss. You have a choice.
  • Develop self-love, self-compassion, self -respect.
  • Feel gratitude each day.

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Michelle Harris

Michelle Harris is a natural counsellor, intuitive energy healing specialist, and empowerment guide. She offers emotional healing, empowerment tools, soul mentoring, and life solutions to those seeking peace, growth, and transformation. Her international clients include organisations, schools, businesses, and people of all ages from all walks of life. Her work is regularly featured in various media and publications. Michelle teaches individual and group sessions that inspire you to live your magnificence – personally, spiritually, and professionally.
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5 thoughts on “Are You Giving Yourself Permission To Feel?”

  1. A great reminder to accept all of our feelings in all their variety. Thank you for the list of suggestions, will be trying to apply some, if not all of them, during this holiday season and beyond.

  2. It is wonderful article about feelings. It resonates a lot with my own experience and through this article any reader woud relize that it makes sense to recognize and accept one’s feelings and learn or take help to deal with them.

    1. Thank you Kamini. Yes taking steps to recognise, own and accept one’s feelings is a step to emotional mastery. That’s great this article aligns with your own experience. Thanks for sharing.

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